If you want my respect, say you’ll do something then do it. Don’t tell me what you’re going to do. Don’t say you’ll do something then forget, or blow it off. All we have to go on in this life are our instincts and our faith in good people. We have to trust that people will do what they say they will; what else do we really have?
I think we have to remember that we are what we say, we are what we do. When we follow through on what we promise, we are saying that we’re worth trusting, worth believing in. When we think we can decide what is and isn’t important to others and fail to do what we’ve said, we let ourselves and those counting on us down. Saying you will do something you have no intention of doing is a lie. Saying you’ll do something you make no effort to do is disingenuous. The good feeling you get from pleasing the person you’ve promised evaporates pretty quickly once you know you’ve disappointed them.
You don’t have to pinky swear, cross your heart and hope to die for your word to be considered a promise. The simple act of saying you WILL is a promise. When you say you will, and you can or could and don’t, you’ve broken your promise. Not fulfilling is a choice… conscious or otherwise. Sometimes there is a really good reason, sometimes not. Circumstances may prevent you from accomplishing what you intended, but if the effort is genuine, honour is maintained.
Men used to be judged on their word; in my world, they still are. What’s your handshake worth?